I’m single. And Valentine’s Day is coming up.
Normally, when these two things coincide, it makes for an interesting day: I wake up in the morning, remember that it’s Valentine’s Day, debate whether or not to wear something red, sincerely try and be happy for those who have found romantic love, and then try to ignore all the red and pink hearts and flowers and balloons around me.
In the evening, I might indulge in a Jane Austen adaptation, or some other cheesy, romantic movie, and eat an insane amount of Nestle Tollhouse chocolate chip cookie dough while lounging on my couch in my flannel pajamas.
And then comes the night. Tired from what can be an emotional day, and with visions of Mr. Darcy dancing in my head, Valentine’s night is when I really struggle. It’s when my brain kicks in, and I start questioning why I am single, wondering what life would be like if I weren’t single, and – hardest of all to admit – it is when I start blaming God for my singleness.
Doesn’t He hear my prayers? Isn’t He supposed to know my heart’s desire? How many times have I confessed to Him that my single greatest desire is to be in a committed, Christian marriage? Why wouldn’t He want that for me too?
Perhaps there is a better way to approach this “holiday.” Maybe my annual struggle doesn’t need to end so negatively? And, here’s a thought — Maybe God has it all under control anyway, and I should just give it up to Him?
A couple of weeks ago, I was reading Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians, and found the answers I desired. In chapter seven, verse seven, he says, “…God gives to some the gift of marriage, and to others the gift of singleness.”
The gift of singleness.
God has given me the gift of singleness! I never thought of my singleness as a gift before.
Here I have been wishing and hoping and praying for one gift, while not realizing that God has already given me another. It gives me a whole new appreciation for being single. And now I find myself looking forward to Valentine’s Day, not just for Mr. Darcy and cookie dough, but because it is an opportunity to celebrate my singleness and to thank God for His gift.
For those of you who have found your love, I congratulate you on your own gift of marriage.
And for all of the other singletons out there, I pray that you also enjoy this Valentine’s Day, and seize the gift you have been given!
Blessings,
Luci